It is only when we have no support that we begin to realise how much of a struggle having no support is, particularly when every day issues get in the way.
Those issues can be anything from a minor argument to disagreements between a parent and our siblings, to something much worse, such as emotional abuse. Those occurrences can sometimes become negative experiences that will sadly manifest itself in how we go on to behave with other people.
As parents, we should be responsible for our children regardless of what we deal with, just as much as our parents should have, or were responsible for us. We don’t stop being parents just because we’re grandparents to grandchildren.
In one way or another, grandparents have an influence on their grandchildren, and therefore must get being the grandparent thing right too. I also think children need to understand the different roles each each member of their family play and behave accordingly with the individual input they receive.
Unfortunately, some families won’t get the family thing right, but it’s important that families work on supporting one another and find a level of acceptance that’s right for everyone.