Dealing with family feuds

It’s only when we have no support that we begin to realise how much of a struggle a lack of support is, particularly when every day issues get in the way. Those are my experiences.

Those issues can be anything from a minor argument to disagreements between parents and/or siblings to something much worse, such as emotional or physical abuse. Occurrences can sometimes become negative experiences that manifest itself in how we go on to behave.

As parents, we should be responsible for our children regardless of what we deal with, just as much as our parents should have or were responsible for us. We don’t stop being parents just because we’re grandparents, therefore parents with grandchildren have two jobs.

In one way or another, grandparents have an influence in their grandchildren’s lives, but they also need to get that right too. I also think children need to understand the different roles each each member of their family play and behave accordingly with the individual input they receive.

Unfortunately, some families won’t get the ‘family’ thing right, but it’s always important that families work on utilising support and find a level of acceptance that’s right for everyone.


18 Aug, 2011

4 thoughts on “Dealing with family feuds

  1. I had a real struggle with this after my mother died. I had to find a way in which my father and I could co exist without battles all the time. In time we have learned to live together without fighting and arguments, but it took a lot of effort on my part for it to happen.

    The major problem is both my father and I are stubborn and tend to hold our ground no matter what. Plus we are too much alike.

    1. It’s always good to be able to find ways of resolving issues with family. I am pleased that you have found that with your father.

      It makes for a more peaceful time for all concerned.

  2. I don’t think I received the support I should have as a child and teen, so as an adult I seek support. I’ve come to accept that.

    But I need to get over it and get on with it. I’m doing better than I used to though. I do give a lot of support to my children and of course I let them slide on a lot of stuff.

    1. It’s often the lack of emotional support gets in the way of how we deal with our own families now.

      I am pleased you are learning to deal with your past and are making a difference for your children.

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