Dealing with family feuds

It is only when we have no support that we begin to realise how much of a struggle having no support is, particularly when every day issues get in the way.

Those issues can be anything from a minor argument to disagreements between a parent and our siblings, to something much worse, such as emotional abuse. Those occurrences can sometimes become negative experiences that will sadly manifest itself in how we go on to behave with other people.

As parents, we should be responsible for our children regardless of what we deal with, just as much as our parents should have, or were responsible for us. We don’t stop being parents just because we’re grandparents to grandchildren.

In one way or another, grandparents have an influence on their grandchildren, and therefore must get being the grandparent thing right too. I also think children need to understand the different roles each each member of their family play and behave accordingly with the individual input they receive.

Unfortunately, some families won’t get the family thing right, but it’s important that families work on supporting one another and find a level of acceptance that’s right for everyone.


18 Aug, 2011

4 thoughts on “Dealing with family feuds

  1. I had a real struggle with this after my mother died. I had to find a way in which my father and I could co exist without battles all the time. In time we have learned to live together without fighting and arguments, but it took a lot of effort on my part for it to happen.

    The major problem is both my father and I are stubborn and tend to hold our ground no matter what. Plus we are too much alike.

    1. It’s always good to be able to find ways of resolving issues with family. I am pleased that you have found that with your father.

      It makes for a more peaceful time for all concerned.

  2. I don’t think I received the support I should have as a child and teen, so as an adult I seek support. I’ve come to accept that.

    But I need to get over it and get on with it. I’m doing better than I used to though. I do give a lot of support to my children and of course I let them slide on a lot of stuff.

    1. It’s often the lack of emotional support gets in the way of how we deal with our own families now.

      I am pleased you are learning to deal with your past and are making a difference for your children.

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