It’s only when we have no support that we begin to realise how much of a struggle a lack of support is, particularly when every day issues get in the way. Those are my experiences.
Those issues can be anything from a minor argument to disagreements between parents and/or siblings to something much worse, such as emotional or physical abuse. Occurrences can sometimes become negative experiences that manifest itself in how we go on to behave.
As parents, we should be responsible for our children regardless of what we deal with, just as much as our parents should have or were responsible for us. We don’t stop being parents just because we’re grandparents, therefore parents with grandchildren have two jobs.
In one way or another, grandparents have an influence in their grandchildren’s lives, but they also need to get that right too. I also think children need to understand the different roles each each member of their family play and behave accordingly with the individual input they receive.
Unfortunately, some families won’t get the ‘family’ thing right, but it’s always important that families work on utilising support and find a level of acceptance that’s right for everyone.