I’m sure we’ve all come across negative people who we would rather not deal with but walking away isn’t always an option. We need to be clever.
Negativity is a means of them gaining attention, albeit in a negative way. They may subconsciously not even be aware they’re being negative, they usually see others as being negative, but we don’t have to convince others of what we know is right.
Whatever views we bring to the table around someone negative may always be met with opposition. Whatever we say they will find ten different reasons to come back in on what we say with their own negative interpretation.
Have you also noticed how negative people stick to the same topic of conversation? It doesn’t matter how long ago you saw them, it’s a new visit with what could be new and interesting conversation, but the topic of conversation always seems to return to something they’re dealing with, or they know a lot about, which we don’t particularly find interesting.
Perhaps if we have little choice about being with them, we need to keep the conversation simple. We mustn’t talk about the things we know they’ll struggle with. If we know the person well enough, we will already know which conversations to avoid.
It’s easy for a conversation to strike up resentment, so think about sticking to lighter topics that are less controversial, less important. Know your audience too because that helps understand what you can talk about.
Always try and perceive a negative person in a positive way so that what they say becomes positive for you and take responsibility for your own perceptions so that you remain positive, even if the other person isn’t.
It’s a skill that we must hone but failing that choose to limit your time with them.