How many of us constantly convince ourselves that we can’t possibly handle having a difficult conversation?
I used to shy away from all conversations. To me the idea of the conversation was worse than the conversation itself. Unfortunately, the risk is more of the same inappropriate behaviour if we ignore the talk! How can anyone know they’re going wrong when we don’t tell them?
I have always believed that unless we’re totally off the mark and we’re useless at reading our own signs, everyone knows whether they’re easy to get on with or they’re approachable or not. For the most part, many of us will put those difficult conversations off, or we’ll convince ourselves that we must wait for the perfect time, but that never comes, right?
We’re kidding ourselves if we think there’s a perfect time, it’s us who must make the time perfect. How we respond is always within our own remit. We must always respond appropriately, be calm and in control at all times. We also need to respect other people’s perceptions, even if we don’t agree, in the same way the other person needs to respect our perceptions even if they don’t agree with us.
In conclusion, without having these potentially difficult conversations when things aren’t right, nine times of ten we’ll have to live with unhappy consequences. If we can bring about closure with a positive outcome, then we’re more likely to heal and bring about inner peace. If we don’t at least try, we’ll never know what we may be able to achieve.