Going into a relationship with a disability is hard. Going into a relationship not knowing you have a disability and then finding out you have one is massively difficult, particularly for the person with the disability.
It’s not knowing beforehand that makes it even more difficult for the person with the disability. They must come to terms with not knowing, getting to know for the first time: they must also get to understand its implications once they know and that can throw their life into complete turmoil.
There is no precedent on how to deal with a relationship where one person is dealing with a disability and the other isn’t, but we need to continue to be sensitive to that person’s needs. I am governed by my neurological and sensory issues and that impacts on another person’s life.
All relationships need tolerance, patience, empathy and understanding, but couple that with dealing with a disability and a double dose helping is required. But being better aware of what a person with a disability deals with and the challenges that are presented beforehand helps. I didn’t have that.
When reality sets in life can be difficult, but it’s all in the attitude. We must want to do be a support, regardless of what we give up to do it. It’s a selfless sacrifice.