I wasn’t a child who succeeded at many things, so didn’t have the chance to experience disappointment in the way other children did.
Now that I have my own children I see that. As much as we try to show that we’re not affected by disappointment I think it’s hard not to feel some form of disappointment from time to time. Being disappointed can leave us numb, as we try to come to terms with that loss.
I believe it’s not that what we’re trying to achieve at is not good enough, because if it’s something we want desperately we will always do and give of our best to achieve the right outcome, but what I believe, is that sometimes what we see as our best is still our best; but we’ve got to fit into a job as much as the job has to fit around us.
That doesn’t mean we’ve failed; it means the job isn’t right for us. As individuals we tend to walk away with a less than satisfied outcome and a feeling that leaves us with a sense of dejection, as though what we’ve tried to achieve is not good enough. As the adult, we must always separate our thoughts to the final outcome.
We don’t fail as the individual, because as the individual we have achieved greatly. We still have the wisdom, even without the success. I see disappointment as an opportunity to start again.
Disappointment also as an opportunity to redress why someone else didn’t see my best as their choice; disappointment as an opportunity to have another go, whilst we work on bringing about a better outcome. Disappointment also gives us more opportunity for us to grow emotionally, mentally and spiritually and allows us to add to our already unique experiences.
Being disappointed and pulling through disappointment encourages other people to show the same fighting spirit.