Do we stop to think before we speak? When I was little with everything going on, thinking before I spoke wasn’t something I regularly did, not because I was wilful, or because I had an opinion that didn’t tie in with my family’s opinion, but because of my emotional and physical issues.
Through frustration and anger, I would sometimes lash out. I think we all know or can relate, but I’m not sure how many people care. But I don’t believe we’re fundamentally like that. What I believe is that our circumstances or upbringing can sometimes make us like that.
If we’re emotionally struggling, if we’ve had a tough upbringing, whether it’s financial, or through other forms of stress, we may begin to lose our ability to cope and then we may lash out. We’re not born angry. Perhaps, then we should take a step back to think about what we say and how what we say will affect others. Now I know that when I help or talk to someone in a kind way, it sets me up for the day.
Unfortunately, when I did change, those around chose to ignore those changes. People see what they want to see, it’s easier that way. It’s easier for others to continue to get us into trouble when we’re landing ourselves in trouble, rather than them working through their own flaws. I changed but others didn’t.
In any event, isn’t it time for us all to stand back and make that difference in our lives for ourselves and for each other? It’s amazing how a kind word can change our day and make us feel good about ourselves. Those words go such a long way.