Don’t be the scapegoat for something you didn’t do, but if you have done something, then be responsible and accept that you have. Never accept blame for something you didn’t do. Accusations are unjust.
If more than one person is responsible for something that has happened and we’re the one being made the scapegoat, then we must say. We must use what we know to let others know we’re not the one at fault. Outline your part, it’s up to others to own up for themselves.
On our part, we must build up our self-confidence, so that we stand up for ourselves. If we’re more assertive, we’re more likely to say something when the finger is pointed at us. When we lack the self-confidence, we usually run with what someone else is telling us, then feel bad when we can’t go back in and correct things.
When we use a scapegoat as a means of communication, we will have distorted views on our reality. No one without a distorted view will seek to use someone else, in order to justify themselves and their behaviour. That person may also continue to direct the problem and will feel justified in the process.
Dysfunctional families will use this behaviour as a form of communication. In the long term, all it does is create more unease.