Being told that you’re loved as a child isn’t the same as feeling that you’re loved. There needs to be a spiritual connectedness between what we’re told and what we feel. When we’re constantly being told we’re pretty, beautiful, or special, we must inwardly feel those things.
Being born with cerebral palsy meant that people behaved differently towards me. It took me many years to make my own connections between being loved and feeling loved, and how I felt about myself.
But when we’re told we’re loved and those words are replicated in another person’s actions, we can begin to feel we’re loved. The more negative elements we encounter, the more we put distance between what’s said and what we feel, and so the gap between what it said and what is felt, becomes bigger.
It doesn’t matter how many times someone tells us they love us, there needs to be a spiritual and emotional connection so that we inwardly feel we’re loved, or we feel special.