It’s a tough one to call, but does claiming for compensation for a birth defect or a negligence claim, make our suffering any easier?
I say that because of something my GP said to me a couple of months ago, when I was trying to find out a little more about my problems with Cerebral Palsy. She assumed that I was looking to claim for compensation, before I’d even had the chance to explain why I was seeing her.
As I didn’t find out I had Cerebral Palsy until the age 46, I was never in a position to think about compensation. I imagine that it would have made my suffering that little bit easier, because it would have taken the onus off my parents. I believe that when any baby is born with a disability, however large or small, mum’s particularly will take the blame as their own.
I know that my mum didn’t know how to deal with me or my issues fully. There was no understanding for me of my condition, but I believe she couldn’t handle the guilt and for her to see me struggle, made it harder.
Compensation would have recognised the hospital as being to blame. It may have even made my relationship better, because my parents would have had more money at the time for us to help me. I won’t know now of course.
This isn’t something my mum and dad would ever discuss with me and to this day my father still doesn’t; although before my mum died, she opened up and told me ‘my birth was a particularly difficult one,’ which opened the floodgates for me to find out about Cerebral Palsy.
Compensation could never mend what I had to go through. What I look for is the difference I can make that helps others too, whilst helping myself to cope with what I have to deal with.