Emotional patterns emerge from our early years and stay etched with us throughout our adult life, until we learn how to change them. I believe different emotional patterns form depending on the different influences and those will bring about different emotional patterns in us.
For example, if someone is overpowering and we don’t know how to react when that person is around us, we may become more submissive. It tends to run in families. How many of us stop to question or identify our behaviour when we’re around family? We behave a certain way, but don’t always understand the family dynamics.
Unfortunately, parents with strong cultural values tend to put their cultural beliefs first and that of the community, instead of their children. Children are simply expected to conform to their family including their cultures, as well as conforming to their community.
As a consequence of conformity, as adults we will continue to enact the same conditional behaviour traits from when we were children. Because we’re not always consciously aware of it, we won’t even know we’re doing it.
Life will always continue to mirror the same patterns until we choose to change them.