Each life phase is hard. Being a child is hard. Being an adult is hard. Being a parent and parenting small children is hard, but I believe it’s not as hard as parenting adult children.
The security we put in place for our children when they’re small has to change as they grow into adults. It’s inevitable that we’re faced with our children wanting to make their own decisions. It’s the uncertainty and the apprehension that comes with them being responsible for themselves when they’re not living with us that’s hard, when we have very little say.
I have never bought into the idea that as a parent we should control our children. Being a parent isn’t about control. As a parent, I am more than happy to stand back so that my children have control over their lives, so that they get to make their own choices. As parents, we will always be vulnerable, as we emotionally begin to let go.
It’s a selfless act, but one that makes parenting adult children difficult on so many levels. In some cases, it can be very scary.