Each life phase is hard. Being a child is hard. Being an adult is hard. Being a parent and parenting small children is hard but their issues are small. It’s not as hard as parenting adult children.
The security we put in place for our children when they’re small has to change as they grow into adults. It is inevitable that we will be faced with our children wanting to make their own decisions. It’s the uncertainty and the apprehension that comes with them being responsible for themselves, when we have very little say.
I have never bought into the idea that as parents we control our children. Being a parent isn’t about control. As a parent, I am more than happy to stand back so that my children have control over their lives and so they get to make their own choices. As parents, we will always be vulnerable, as we emotionally begin to let go.
It’s a selfless act, but one that makes parenting adult children difficult on so many levels. In some cases, it can be very scary.