When we can understand someone’s feelings from their perspective and don’t stand in judgment, we have the ability to empathise.
Empathy isn’t something we’re born with, but it’s something we can learn and practice. But it’s not something we will all have in our lifetime. To have empathy, we must put ourselves in another person’s shoes and feel what that person feels.
Some of us will have natural empathetic tendencies, whilst others sadly won’t. Some of us won’t notice, while others simply won’t be bothered to notice, but most of us will be somewhere in the middle and will understand in part how someone feels. We tend to ignore how others feel when we’re not coping.
Empathy is usually self-taught. If our parents have empathy, we will learn about empathy and even if our parents don’t have empathy there is no reason why we can’t. Empathy comes from within us, from what we see around us.
As a child growing up with physical and emotional difficulties, I automatically understood what empathy was. I could see someone else’s suffering through my own and that enabled me to relate to them easily.
If we want to have empathy we will work on having it. That part will always be up to us.