Establishing boundaries

Boundaries are taught to children by their parents from a very early age and are usually in place to protect them and other children they come into contact with.

There are children who are lovely natured and probably wouldn’t be affected by having no boundaries, but the more wilful and determined child would probably stop at nothing, without any boundaries in place. That kind of child would be a nightmare to manage, let alone live with.

But boundaries aren’t just for children, they serve adults too and are crucial if we are to build and implement healthy relationships. Adults without boundaries may be objectionable and will lack communication skills. They may also act independently when making decisions without any regard for their partner or spouse.

Boundaries are there to help us adjust and live within the constraints of what we already know. They also help us communicate safely and effectively without us overstepping the mark on what we say.

These are the reasons why boundaries are important and why they must be maintained. Any differences must be respected.

26 Jun, 2012

4 thoughts on “Establishing boundaries

  1. Boundaries would have been a good idea when I was growing up – I never really had them and ignored those that I did have.

    Some might say that’s why I can be a royal pain in the ass sometimes as an adult.

    1. I agree with you on all your points.

      It’s not really fair for anyone having to be on the receiving end of someone who has never had boundaries, for the reason you’ve mentioned in your last paragraph and my blog.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I’ve only known kids play out that way, when they don’t get their own way on what they can and cannot do.

      Unfortunately I have seen first hand what happens when boundaries aren’t in place. I think it’s easy for the family unit to become dysfunctional without them.

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