How many of us know from an early age what we want to do with our lives, when we grow up? As parents encourage, we become encouraged to think about it more. I remember as a child being asked that same question and my father answering.

Not only was I never encouraged to aspire to my dreams, being born into a culture that didn’t encourage girls, only served to set my life on a path of marriage and children. It’s important for us all to know our potential and to be encouraged to achieve it.  It not only encourages wider thought, but also encourages us to be confident, independent and more in control of our thoughts and our lives in general.

When we’re held back, we automatically hold back on our aspirations too, what we want with our lives and for ourselves. By the time I had reached my 30’s I hadn’t achieved anything. My mother’s terminal illness in my 40’s kick started me into doing something; making the changes I needed to make.

Sadly, once low expectations of ourselves set in, it’s not so easy to pick ourselves back up. We begin to believe what we’re told as we grow up. We almost have to talk ourselves around into believing that we can achieve our dreams and goals. My first goal was to find out what I had been dealing with for all those years. My second goal was to go back into education and my third goal was to set up and run my own website, all of which I have achieved.

But I believe anyone can do it. We can all change. We must learn to change our approach and our direction. The approach is the most important. We also have to make sure that our goals and dreams are not beyond our reach, but within it.

4 May, 2012

6 thoughts on “Expectations

  1. ‘Beilieve it, achieve it,’ is that what you’re saying?

    Growing up I believed that I’d be a surgeon, but my hands were not steady enough. In 8th grade I believed that I’d be a great Professional chef, but I was not good with a knife.

    1. I have always believed we all have different strengths. I wasn’t particularly good at maths in school so I wouldn’t push myself to become a Nuclear Scientist; it just wouldn’t have been achievable.

      It’s important for us all to believe that we can achieve what we choose to achieve, but what we want to achieve has to be reasonable, within our reach and achievable to us. It’s a matter of finding out what works.

  2. My 18 month old daughter was just diagnosed with mild CP and I want to do everything I can to help her be the best that she can be. Do you have any advice for me?

    She has been in OT and PT since she was 7 months old until she had to see an Orthopedic for her foot when he said he thought she had CP.

    1. Sarah I would be grateful if you still want my help to contact me using the Contact form. I hope things with you are okay.

  3. I never had any expectations growing up.

    The only expectation that my parents had was that I would get the same education as my older brother. In that respect I was lucky as it meant I could do pretty much whatever I chose to do, without too much interference and I did.

    1. You’re very lucky in that your experiences on your education turned out to be more than positive. I am sure like many of us, there will have been other elements where you wish other things in your childhood had been done differently.

      It’s part of life, although at the time as a parent, we often believe we’re making the right choices for our family.

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