How many of us know from an early age what we want to do with our lives, when we grow up? As parents encourage, we become encouraged to think about it more. I remember as a child being asked that same question and my father answering.
Not only was I never encouraged to aspire to my dreams, being born into a culture that didn’t encourage girls, only served to set my life on a path of marriage and children. It’s important for us all to know our potential and to be encouraged to achieve it. It not only encourages wider thought, but also encourages us to be confident, independent and more in control of our thoughts and our lives in general.
When we’re held back, we automatically hold back on our aspirations too, what we want with our lives and for ourselves. By the time I had reached my 30’s I hadn’t achieved anything. My mother’s terminal illness in my 40’s kick started me into doing something; making the changes I needed to make.
Sadly, once low expectations of ourselves set in, it’s not so easy to pick ourselves back up. We begin to believe what we’re told as we grow up. We almost have to talk ourselves around into believing that we can achieve our dreams and goals. My first goal was to find out what I had been dealing with for all those years. My second goal was to go back into education and my third goal was to set up and run my own website, all of which I have achieved.
But I believe anyone can do it. We can all change. We must learn to change our approach and our direction. The approach is the most important. We also have to make sure that our goals and dreams are not beyond our reach, but within it.