How many of us know from an early age what we want to do when we grow up? With parental encouragement, children think and dream about their own futures. As a child, I remember being asked that same question by friends of the family, and my father answering before I had a chance to speak.
We must all be encouraged to dream, to know what our potential is and to be encouraged to achieve it. Not only does potential encourage wider thought, but it also encourages us to be confident, independent and be more in control of our lives.
By the time I had reached my thirties, I hadn’t achieved anything. It was when my mother became terminally ill and she told me mine ‘was a difficult birth’ I intuitively understood, she was ‘opening the door’ for me to find out about my disability.
Without encouragement, if we have low expectations of ourselves, it is not so easy for us to pick ourselves back up. Some children will go through their childhood and believe what they’re told and won’t stop to question. Others will think about what they’re being told and may question everything. With low expectations, we almost have to talk ourselves into believing that we can achieve and aspire to our dreams and goals.
My first goal was to find out what I had been dealing with for all those years. My second goal was to go back into education, and at the point of diagnosis, my third goal was to set up and run my own website. My fourth goal is to have this book published. All of which I am immensely grateful to have achieved.
I believe anyone can change their expectations, but first we must learn how to change. A different approach to managing and raising our expectations is needed. We also must make sure that our goals and dreams are not beyond our reach, but within it.