How many of us know from an early age what we want to do when we grow up? With parental encouragement, children think and dream about their own futures. As a child, I remember being asked that same question by friends of the family, and my father answering before I had a chance to speak.

We must all be encouraged to dream, to know what our potential is and to be encouraged to achieve it. Not only does potential encourage wider thought, but it also encourages us to be confident, independent and be more in control of our lives.

By the time I had reached my thirties, I hadn’t achieved anything. It was when my mother became terminally ill and she told me mine ‘was a difficult birth’ I intuitively understood, she was ‘opening the door’ for me to find out about my disability.

Without encouragement, if we have low expectations of ourselves, it is not so easy for us to pick ourselves back up. Some children will go through their childhood and believe what they’re told and won’t stop to question. Others will think about what they’re being told and may question everything. With low expectations, we almost have to talk ourselves into believing that we can achieve and aspire to our dreams and goals.

My first goal was to find out what I had been dealing with for all those years. My second goal was to go back into education, and at the point of diagnosis, my third goal was to set up and run my own website. My fourth goal is to have this book published. All of which I am immensely grateful to have achieved.

I believe anyone can change their expectations, but first we must learn how to change. A different approach to managing and raising our expectations is needed. We also must make sure that our goals and dreams are not beyond our reach, but within it.

4 May, 2012

6 thoughts on “Expectations

  1. ‘Beilieve it, achieve it,’ is that what you’re saying?

    Growing up I believed that I’d be a surgeon, but my hands were not steady enough. In 8th grade I believed that I’d be a great Professional chef, but I was not good with a knife.

    1. I have always believed we all have different strengths. I wasn’t particularly good at maths in school so I wouldn’t push myself to become a Nuclear Scientist; it just wouldn’t have been achievable.

      It’s important for us all to believe that we can achieve what we choose to achieve, but what we want to achieve has to be reasonable, within our reach and achievable to us. It’s a matter of finding out what works.

  2. My 18 month old daughter was just diagnosed with mild CP and I want to do everything I can to help her be the best that she can be. Do you have any advice for me?

    She has been in OT and PT since she was 7 months old until she had to see an Orthopedic for her foot when he said he thought she had CP.

    1. Sarah I would be grateful if you still want my help to contact me using the Contact form. I hope things with you are okay.

  3. I never had any expectations growing up.

    The only expectation that my parents had was that I would get the same education as my older brother. In that respect I was lucky as it meant I could do pretty much whatever I chose to do, without too much interference and I did.

    1. You’re very lucky in that your experiences on your education turned out to be more than positive. I am sure like many of us, there will have been other elements where you wish other things in your childhood had been done differently.

      It’s part of life, although at the time as a parent, we often believe we’re making the right choices for our family.

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