I believe sewing a seed with our children in their formative years, means they will reap the benefits later on. Of course there are no guarantees with that. It’s the nature of raising children, but it also very much depends on whether our children agree with our opinions and values.
My own values have taught me so much about how I want to live my life and although I haven’t insisted my children work with the same values, they know how and what my values mean to me. Although we wouldn’t want our children to be clones of us, we would want our children to evaluate what they’ve been taught from us, so that they get the best out of their own relationships and their lives. After all that’s what being a parent is all about.
We cannot expect others in our children’s lives to conform to our children’s values, but that it’s up to our children to decide whether those people are right for them, given their own set of values. We cannot always expect children to think what we think, particularly when they have so many other influences in their lives. But I would hope our values will resonate with our children on some level.
My own belief is that as we sew a seed, eventually children will conform to a certain extent. Children learn from their parents. It may take time of course but if it’s done right I believe it will happen.