Fear of commitment is a well-known phrase we hear being banded about, it may even describe you if that is something you struggle with, and as we unconsciously fail to commit, life passes us by.
A fear of commitment is losing something to gain something new. The reality for anyone who has difficulty with commitment is making a wrong decision, but with careful consideration we come through having made the right decision.
The problem doesn’t end there. When we deal with commitment issues, we will have to deal with commitment issues on a bigger scale, because commitment issues will impact us in other areas of our life too. The irony is that when we’re unable to commit, we fear what we may need the most, which is the intimacy and security that comes with a loving committed relationship.
The majority of us may want to have a secure and loving relationship, we’re just too afraid to commit to making it happen. The fear we feel comes from something that happens in our formative years, from something we’ve seen, or from an insecurity that has embedded itself in the commitment issues we struggle with.
Always engage in trying to understand and change what it is that’s stopping you from committing to someone or something. When we begin to work through some of our issues, we will begin to see and recognise why we struggle.
It may simply stem from our parents and their parents before them. It is often the disharmony in families that affect us. On some level, we must deal with the disharmony and once we’re through learn to change our presenting behaviour.