Being alone with our thoughts can bring about peaceful moments in-between those moments where we feel isolated and alone. Solitude can be graceful and with the right tools, it’s something we can overcome.
As long as people enjoy and want to be in their own company, they’ll never have a problem with being alone. The problem many of us have is that we hate spending time by ourselves. Some of us don’t like our own company.
Learning to like who we are and liking our own company stems from childhood. If we don’t have the right tools as children, it will take longer to achieve the older we get. It is very much achievable.
Society has a problem with people being on their own. We’re almost social outcasts or lepers if we dine alone. People will assume when we’re on our own it is because we don’t have any friends, rather than we love our own company and don’t mind being on our own. There is a stigma attached to being on our own.
In my own case, growing up with physical problems made it easier for me to relate to myself. I would continually internalise my thoughts so never felt on my own. Struggling to fit in around my physical problems, particularly in school, made it easier for me to fit into my life.
I would often welcome the solitude. I thrived on being alone. It has helped me overcome a lot.