I have already written a blog about fitting in with what we deal with in our lives, but I believe there is another side to it too.
I remember around the time I was a teenager, thinking that somehow I didn’t fit into my life. We were on holiday with my family and I just remember being closed off as if I didn’t fit in. My siblings were larking around having fun, but I felt awkward. I didn’t feel as though I fitted in.
I wanted to be the one who was being silly. I wanted to be the one to have fun fitting in, but didn’t know how to. I was too serious to be silly, to have fun. Having no confidence or self-esteem contributed to how I felt, but at the time it wasn’t something I understood or equated to. Things never changed.
Fitting in is something we should be taught when we’re children. The groundwork needs to be done when we’re young. When we hit adolescence, we tend to question ourselves; we begin to look at all the things that didn’t bother us as children, but begin to bother us as teenagers, particularly teenage girls. By the time we’ve come through adolescence, we will have already made a mental list of all the things we don’t like about ourselves and that can contribute to us not fitting in.
I also think peer pressure is to blame. There were girls in the ‘in-crowd’ that made me feel awkward; having a physical problem also contributed to my awkwardness. As parents we tell our children how pretty they look or how clever they are, but without us feeling these things for ourselves; we will never fit into the perception of how our parents or society see us.
Outwardly we tend to conform so that we fit into society because it’s easier, but I also believe we need to be true to ourselves. I believe that finding our own level of acceptability should make us feel less awkward so that we can fit into our lives.