As a child I had a right to feel safe and secure. Children and adults alike all have a right to feel safe. It is the responsibility of parents and family members to create and make sure we’re in an emotional and physical safe environment, but not all parents have the know how or capacity to fulfill that responsibility.
But safety isn’t just someone protecting us physically from harm, making sure we have a roof over our head, or feeding us, safety also means protecting us emotionally, psychologically and spiritually, which are inherent to us as human beings.
Not feeling safe, opens us up to wounds in the psyche. It is a wound that is often repressed by us as adults, but its impacts are far reaching and profound. As a child, through my experiences and around my disability, I lived my life without questioning what everything meant.
I’m not sure we’re mature enough to understand how to question what we go through. And that’s fine if you come through your childhood pretty much unscathed, but the realities for most of us are, that we don’t. I was no exception.
But for us to feel safe, for us to grow emotionally, independently and spiritually, we must start to work with our inner child, doing some ‘inner work’ on ourselves. You can start by getting yourself into a reflective space, and learning to reflect on your childhood through the early years.
Ask yourself the questions, how did you feel as a child; did you feel safe, loved and wanted; did you have a sense of belonging in your family? were you encouraged to be you? What is your current relationship with your inner child now?
Not everyone will understand the correlation between their inner child and how they function in their adult years. But our behaviour, our neuroses and aversions, can be explored by us communicating with our inner child.
The inner child lives within our psyche. When our inner child feels comforted, when all is well with our inner child, we will feel inspired and safe.