Feuding parents… how many children will have grown up in families where their parents argue? I know I did. It is not possible to totally avoid arguments, but how much of what children see with their feuding parents is harmful?
Some children may be fearful of their parents’ arguments and that will have an impact on them in other areas of their life; other children may become insular and take everything they see and hear to heart.
Children growing up around feuding parents may be asked by one parent to intervene to stop their parents’ feuding. When it comes to feuding parents, there is evidence to suggest children pick up on the emotions brought about through their parents feuding.
Instead, children should see their parents as role models and parents should be there to protect their children. Children have a lot to deal with through school that can leave them stressed, but living amongst parents who argue all the time can leave them feeling anxious and stressed.
Their sense of what family is can be undermined and may be replaced with confidence and self-esteem issues. As parents break their own rules to fit their lifestyles, their children can be made to abide by the new rules, which can leave them confused.
Children may always be affected by parents who argue, and may also begin to emulate what they see in their own relationships as a result.