Is there such a thing as a non-feuding parent? I am sure some of us will have grown up in families where parents argue. Children will see arguments in their lifetime.
It is not possible to totally avoid them, but how much of what children see is harmful? Some children may be fearful of their parents’ arguments and that will have an impact in other areas of their life, other children may become insular and take everything they see and hear inwards.
Other children may become more vocal about what they see and may try to intervene to stop their parents’ feuding. When it comes to feuding parents, there is evidence to suggest that these are the emotions children will experience.
Children are supposed to see their parents as role models. Parents should be there to protect their children. It’s already easy for children to feel stressed growing up, because they have a lot to deal with, particularly in their school years, but living amongst parents who argue all the time can leave them feeling more stressed, both about family and school.
Their sense of what family is, can be undermined and may be replaced with confidence and self-esteem issues. Inevitably and sadly, when parents argue, the trust between the parents and the children will break down. And as parents break the rules, their children will be made to abide by new rules, which can then become very confusing.
Children will always be affected by parents who argue, and will sadly begin to emulate what they see in their own relationships as adults.