Find the words

No matter how hard it is to tell your child that you’re struggling with something they’re dealing with, if you can find the words to explain your feelings, you should always let them know.

Although children often have to adjust to their circumstances, it’s often more difficult for them to comprehend why the support from a parent/s isn’t there. I know I was that child. When something doesn’t happen and it’s explained to us, we cope much better just by the nature of having an explanation.

As long as parents say why they can’t deal with something and talk to their children, children will usually understand. They understand less when things aren’t being addressed or talked about.

Parents need to hear how children feel and for us to find the words to explain and find a resolve to help them with their issues. We must find the words.

7 Jul, 2013

4 thoughts on “Find the words

  1. I agree. We do need to include our children in our struggles, but in a way so as not to make the child worry about us.

    I’ve always talked to my daughter openly and she understands where I’m coming from. She just doesn’t always see things my way and that is par for the course when you’re dealing with someone with Bipolar disorder.

    Just yesterday I was feeling depressed a little and down on myself about being a bad mother but she reassured me that I’m not. I’ve always been open with her and I am open with my oldest daughter who is my step-daughter, but I’ve been her mom since she was 8 years old and her real mom isn’t really in the picture hardly at all, so I’m her mom.

    I think being open and honest with our children can help the relationship. Being secretive about things is not the way to go.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I know I would have found that part of my life difficult had I have been included in my parents’ struggles. Children aren’t always mature enough to handle what their parents’ deal with.

      As parents whether we find it difficult to help our children with what they have to deal with, or with what we have to deal with we just have to tell them how we feel.

  2. This is very true. As a child everything was hidden from us by our parents, so if they were struggling with something that we were having difficulty with, we never knew about it.

    I don’t think that did us or our parents any favours. It is far better to discuss things openly and to get used to doing so, especially as a parent as that will help our children do the same.

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