Finding a place

“Verbal abuse (also verbal attack or verbal assault) is the act of forcefully criticising, insulting, or denouncing another person.  Characterized by underlying anger and hostility, it is a destructive form of communication intended to harm the self-concept of the other person and produce negative emotions.” – Wikipedia

Over the years I have lived with abuse, trauma and neglect. I have also lived a dysfunctional life. Whichever way you look at my story, I have been through the mill, but I am lucky that through my blog, I continue to find an understanding on my experiences and that helps me with the healing process.

Any form of abuse, trauma and neglect is not something you forget, it’s something you’ve lived. It’s something you find a place for until you can find a way through. It is important to try to move on from the experience.

If anyone mentally or emotionally treats you badly or makes personal remarks about you, if someone physically hurts or verbally abuses you, if someone emotionally neglects or sexually abuses you, if someone is being aggressive towards you, it is important you find a place where you can feel and stay mentally safe.

It is important to speak out against any form of abuse. Unless we put a stop to the abuse by walking away, we’re inadvertently condoning abuse.


17 Aug, 2019

2 thoughts on “Finding a place

  1. Most of my childhood was spent regularly being verbally abused in an attempt to do my mum’s bidding and being punished if I didn’t.

    It’s hard to comprehend that any parent would knowingly treat their children in such a way that would destroy them mentally. We didn’t really have any safe places to escape to as kids, so we had to endure the full brunt of their insanity.

    Children like us fell through the cracks way back then, but in this day and age, I would have to hope that they would catch on to our suffering and save us.

    It would be great to find a way to create a safe place for others so they don’t have to suffer through the things that we did.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, my mum used to say ‘you don’t go to school to learn how to be a parent’ and I used to think it was a get out clause, but perhaps parenting skills can be added into the sex and relationship classes in school.

      Not a bad idea at all. You’re never too early to start. That said, it’s important all children come through their childhood unscarred. Where ‘a damaged child becomes a broken adult,’ it is important parents get their parenting right.

      But whatever happens to us in our childhoods, with continued work on ourselves, I believe we can turn certain elements of our lives around.

      We must find a place to continue to live our lives successfully.

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