Finding our own way

How many of us spend our lives living a life other people expect us live? This means living with dreams and goals that are never reached, or are our own, but based on what other people expect, or want for us.

It’s important we find our own way. It’s human nature for us to find ourselves comparing ourselves to others, but it can make us feel worse and doesn’t help. When we perceive other people to be better or more successful than we are, we will begin to lose our own way.

We need to pay attention to ourselves to know and understand our own qualities. We can never know what we’re capable of, if we continue to follow other people’s values and or their beliefs.

We’re all individuals with unique personalities. We must learn to embrace and get to know everything about ourselves that makes us unique, so that we can find our own way, without us having to rely on someone else.


22 Jul, 2011

4 thoughts on “Finding our own way

  1. I used to talk to my mother about what everyone else had.

    My mother would always tell me to quit worrying about what others had or did and think about what I had myself. I guess I was jealous of others.

    I got over it and now concentrate on what I have and what I’ve accomplished. I’m pretty happy except for the schooling part. I’ve been a nurse so long and am ready to move on to a new career. I know what I want to do, but starting may be a problem right now so I just have to wait until it’s the right time.

    I have everything in the world I need so I don’t envy others of what they have. It did make me unhappy when I would obsess about what others had and I didn’t. I think I was trying to make up for the attention I didn’t get from my mother and the praise I didn’t get,(my sister got all the praise and good wishes). I’m okay with it now.

    I’m proud of my sister for all her accomplishments. I have several accomplishments also and my mom is proud of me for them now. I guess it was a childhood thing.

    1. For me it’s a parent thing that they get horribly wrong; either because of a parent’s culture or through what they’ve learned from their parents and the cycle continues.

      Parents should encourage their children to ‘find their own way’ and help them along life’s journey well enough so that their children are happy with themselves as adults.

      Unfortunately for many of us that never happened; which is why some of us will still struggle today.

  2. Very good post here today. I can relate to this very much, through what my parents expected of me growing up and as an adult.

    1. Thanks Randy. I think that what you experienced is very common for many of us. You’re definitely not on your own.

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