I used to know someone who instead of trying to fix his problems, would spend his time constantly moaning about them.
Personally, I can’t see the attraction, but I have never come to understood why some people would choose to spend so much time and energy moaning, when they could fix the same problem in half the time instead. Perhaps I’m missing something, but what’s the point?
What I know is that if we learned to spend less time moaning and more time ascertaining whether what we’re moaning about can be fixed, we’d have less stress to deal with. If we know something isn’t going to or hasn’t worked, perhaps then we just need to find something that will. It doesn’t mean we’ve failed, it just means we need to find a way that works better for us.
How we handle our problems are very much key. I tend to stand back, so that I’m looking at those problems from the outside in. That way I get to see the bigger picture. If we equate our problems to falling off a bike, you fall off, you get back up and try again. Whatever happens, you don’t give up.
Moaning is such a waste of time, effort and energy, not to mention stressful. If anything, it turns people off wanting to listen, or help us and just makes us feel more miserable, not to mention ill because of stress.