Flawed assumptions

An assumption is something we take for granted or presuppose. It’s something we’ve come to learn and therefore don’t stop to question it.

We assume that what we believe is true and use those beliefs to interpret the world and the people around us. There will always be assumptions that we think are sound that turn out not to be. Assumptions can also be unjustified, depending on whether we have good cause or reason for them.

It is human nature for us to use our beliefs as assumptions and make inferences based on those assumptions. If our assumptions are based on what other people deal with, our inferences may be wrong, unless we know for sure.

We make judgments based on our interpretations from assumptions and come to our conclusions from the beliefs we have formed, through those assumptions. If those assumptions are flawed, our judgments will be flawed.

Always set aside assumptions of what you think you know. Assumptions aren’t facts, they’re assumptions on what we think we know and that can cause conflict with others, particularly when we think we know what someone deals with and we don’t.

4 Sep, 2015

6 thoughts on “Flawed assumptions

  1. Well, when it comes down to assuming something, the expression usually is, ‘when you assume something, it makes an ass out of you and me!’

    People are always making assumptions based on limited information without having all the facts. Things like, ‘you don’t look sick!’ When someone has mental health issues or even with Cerebral Palsy, where it isn’t as obvious as being in a wheelchair.

    The argument rages on about people parking in handicapped spaces when they look perfectly healthy, but may have back injuries that keep them from walking on bad days. It’s just ridiculous and insulting when people make such nasty comments because they can’t see the problem.

    I’m sure people have assumed that I’ve been faking my mental health issues all along since I haven’t been working, but they’re not the ones living inside my head! Just because I may look physically fine, doesn’t mean that I’m not broken in ways that can’t be fixed.

    This is the main reason I don’t like sharing my issues with everyone, because so many people assume that I should still be able to work, no matter what. I tried that quite a few times and it didn’t end well.

    People can have very flawed assumptions, if they don’t have to deal with the issues that we do!

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes I agree. I believe though, that when we come from a place of knowledge we will choose not to make assumptions. Most assumptions are made from a place of ignorance.

      People tend to believe what they want to believe. We must open our minds to all possibilities and allow others to live their lives whether we agree with how they live or not. It wouldn’t be for anyone else to say whether someone else is faking it.

  2. I try not to assume things.

    I’ve had people assume things about me my entire life and most of the time they are wrong. No one knows what others are going through unless they live it for themselves and then the outcome can be so different.

    1. Thanks Lisa, yes you’re right. How different things would look if other people were to experience what we experience and if they did, they would choose not to assume.

      It’s not a nice feeling when that happens. I couldn’t agree more.

  3. People have always made assumptions about me because of my disability.

    There’s a lot of people who seem to think they know what is best for me, what I am able to do, etc. I try not to allow their assumptions get to me. I used to try to prove myself to people, but it’s emotionally tiring.

    People’s assumptions of me don’t matter as long as I know who I am and am capable of.

    1. Thanks Maria. Yes unfortunately disability lends itself to people making assumptions of what we deal with, and how we should handle what we deal with.

      I believe though that not all assumptions made of us are vindictive. I think the majority of people who do go on to assume things about us, are only trying to help.

      That said, it doesn’t help us when it happens. I can understand you trying to prove yourself. We often do it so people will notice us, particularly when there is very little support.

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