There was one area of my life that I continually blamed myself for and that was my failing in school. Each day was a continual battle.
As I dutifully got dressed each morning, unconsciously I knew it was going to be another day of struggles. It wasn’t that I just didn’t get school, I had a mental disability that I didn’t know I had that stopped me from succeeding.
Looking back, I can see that I was continually blaming myself for failing. I do see now it is important we look at our circumstances and read between the lines, so we take the onus of ourselves. When you learn to read between the lines, everything looks and feels different. You begin to learn about people, and that gives you your understanding.
Choosing to re-live my journey, and to look at my past around my disability has catapulted me into a much healthier space. I can see the ‘wood from the trees’ Everything is so much more clear. Perhaps we need to think about why we’re blaming ourselves and ask ourselves if blaming ourselves, is really the right thing to do.
We mustn’t blame ourselves if we’re not to blame, but there does come a time when we must turn the mirror on ourselves and start addressing the issues, we’re blaming ourselves for.