Family behaviour has a history of repeating itself on future generations. Unfortunately, family behaviour patterns passed through the generations dictate how we will communicate with other family members and how we will get to live our lives.
Those behaviour patterns will determine our opinions, our beliefs and our decisions. They will also influence our behaviour. As time goes by, we will fail to change because unconsciously we will continue to emulate the same behaviour patterns. All these patterns will eventually get passed on through new relationships.
The truth is that if our parents don’t deal with conflict in their lives, we won’t avoid it either. If our parents are pacifists, we will be pacifists. As children we learn, we grow and evolve around the parameters set out by our parents. That’s okay if family are positive role models, but if any flaws are passed down through the generations, those flaws will have an influence on everyone, including future generations.
Previous generations whether they know it or not, will always have an influence on future generations, good or bad. For example, If a child goes on to be ignored because his parents can’t cope with the loss of one of their children, that scenario will not only play out on their surviving child, but on future generations as well.
It’s our job to teach children how to develop valuable learning skills, to see them through their own lives positively, regardless of what’s passed down.