Family behaviour has a history of repeating itself with future generations. Those behaviour patterns passed through the generations will dictate how we communicate with other family members and how we get to live our lives.
Those behaviour patterns will determine our opinions, our beliefs and our decisions. They will also influence our own behaviour. As a result, we will unconsciously fail to change anything and will continue to emulate the same behaviour patterns unless we make a conscious effort to do things differently.
The truth is that if our parents don’t deal with conflict, we can’t avoid it. If our parents are pacifists, we will also be pacifists. As children, we learn to grow and evolve around the parameters set out by our parents. If our parents and family are positive role models, we should become positive role models also.
As each generation’s trauma are passed down from generation to generation, those traumas will have an influence on our children through us and will pass on to future generations. Previous generations, whether they know it or not, will always have an influence on future generations.
I believe as parents, it is our job to teach our children how to develop valuable learning skills, instead of us unconsciously relying on what’s been passed down through the generations.