Sadly, family behaviour has a history of repeating itself on future generations. Family behaviour patterns passed through the generations will dictate how we communicate with other family and how we get to live our lives.
Those behaviour patterns will determine our opinions, our beliefs and our decisions. They will also influence our behaviour. Unconsciously we will continue to emulate the same behaviour patterns. That’s how it works.
The truth is that if our parents don’t deal with conflict, we won’t avoid it either. If our parents are pacifists, we will be pacifists. As children, we learn to grow and evolve around the parameters set out by our parents.
If our parents and family are positive role models, we will fair better, but as each generation’s flaws are passed down from previous generations, those flaws will continue to have a bearing on future generations, unless we consciously take control and change things.
Previous generations will always have an influence on future generations, but it’s not something they will be consciously aware of. But it’s our job as parents to teach children how to develop valuable learning skills, regardless of what’s been passed down through the generations.