Getting knocked back doesn’t just have to be in the form of an interview. It can also happen when someone close to us goes off at the deep end, pulls us down, shuts us off without communication and where our values begin to feel threatened.
It’s not always easily rectified either, unless the other person is ready to deal with and take responsibility for their presenting behaviour. Although it’s not always easy, we must try to see the presenting issues, see the bigger picture so that we don’t take what’s said personally. We must always try to move forward so that we don’t stay knocked back.
Of course there’s always a reason why, but there’s no excuse for anyone making us feel bad. When we live permanently in the present, we will feel happier in ourselves, without making what we deal with other people’s problems.
And that means we’re less likely to use defensive behaviour towards others, regardless of who they are.