Growing up I was angry and others took advantage. I needed to grow a backbone. When you eventually grow one, others then see what you do as non-caring, or hateful. But it is important we take control on how we choose to live our lives.
I was emotionally and mentally struggling. I struggled to live my life and where I tried, I failed. Our upbringing is very much responsible for that. My life changed 10 years ago through my cerebral palsy diagnosis. For the first time I had the freedom. Now I steer and point myself in the direction I want to go.
Growing a backbone means learning to care less about what other people think. Whether you have a backbone, or you grow one, you will always be seen the way others choose to see you. If you choose to put others first, they will thank you for it, until you start speaking out, then you’re seen as the bad one.
It’s not that they have a problem with you speaking out, they have a problem with the fact that where you have spoken out, they are struggling to speak. No one feels threatened, until we give them reason to feel threatened.
If the shoe were on the other foot, and they grew a backbone, they would expect us to run with it. It is important to grow a backbone.