Guilt is a burden many of us carry by the trunk load, either because of something someone else has done to us, or something we’ve done as a consequence of someone else. It’s in our subconscious, something we’re drawn to, which is why it’s difficult to let it go.
But the message we need to give ourselves when we’re carrying guilt is that we should redress the balance. Guilt never goes away until we deal with it. There needs to be a link between guilt and apology, both are important to spiritual and emotional growth.
As children we’re taught to say sorry when we’re wrong, and some children find it hard to do. Adults find it even harder. It’s the same with guilt. When a person judges us as wrong, that person is defending his or her own emotions, in the same way we defend ourselves when we fail to apologise.
When a person chooses to judge, they’re doing it so that they don’t have to think or understand their real emotions. As our behaviour towards others puts them in touch with their own feelings, other people’s behaviour towards us will put us in touch with ours.
Guilt is linked to ego; the ego takes a knock and we fail to admit our guilt because of a bruised ego. Guilt is used as a tool to control children into believing or thinking they have to conform. Cultures, people and societies all use guilt to brainwash others into believing their path is the right path. In effect what they really want us to do is take their path, which isn’t necessarily the right one for us.
When others pass their guilt on to us, we begin to believe we’re at fault and that’s perhaps something we need to change. It’s not our guilt. Sadly, it’s usually other people’s guilt directed at us.