I’ve never been great at responding to bad news. As a child I would unconsciously talk myself into things as a result of any bad news.
As the adult I try to cope with bad news, positively. I know that attitude and focus may help pave the way for positive thinking in dire circumstances. Being positive is an important response for bad news, but it’s not something that happens spontaneously. We have to work at it.
No one gets to change bad news or the outcome, but it helps the healing process if we are able to react positively to it. Being pro-active allows us to take bad news in our stride, but it must be honed. It’s not easy, but it’s easier if we learn to deal with it in childhood.
The first time I had to cope with bad news was when my grandmother passed, in my earlier twenties. My spiritual beliefs helped me handle bad news, but then it was easier, there was less going on in the world. Less for us to concern ourselves about.
But bad news is a response as much as good news is. It’s a part of life that is necessary, in some cases even more. We learn more about ourselves and life when we have to deal with bad news. It’s not something I did as a child, but now I ask myself questions so that I can work through handling bad news and the theory works.
Questions like what may have caused the bad news to happen? How could something like that be avoided next time? Did the problem happen because of a health issue that hadn’t been addressed? Asking questions help with the bigger picture and can often make hearing bad news less scary.
There is a reason behind why bad news becomes bad news. We need to understand why. Once you have your understanding that becomes part of the healing process.