I’ve never been great at responding to bad news. As a child I would unconsciously talk myself into things as a result of any bad news, it didn’t matter what the bad news was.
As the adult I try to cope with bad news, positively. I know that attitude and focus helps pave the way for positive behaviour in what could seem like a doom and gloom scenario. Being positive is an important response for bad news, but it’s not something that happens spontaneously. We have to work at it.
No one gets to change bad news or the outcome, but it helps if we’re able to react positively to it. Being pro-active allows us to take bad news in our stride, but it’s easier said than done and needs to be honed. It’s not something that comes easy, but is much easier if we learn to deal with it in childhood.
As a child, I was completely shielded from bad news so was totally unprepared as an adult. The first time I had to cope with bad news, was when my grandmother passed in my earlier twenties. My spiritual beliefs help me understand how to handle bad news now, but back then it was a completely different story. Suffice to say I struggled.
Of course, bad news is a response as much as good news is. It’s a part of life that is necessary, in some cases even more. We learn more about ourselves and life when we have to deal with bad news. It’s not something I did as a child, but now I ask myself questions so that I can work through handling bad news and the theory works.
Questions like: what may have caused the bad news to happen? How could something like that be avoided next time? Did the problem happen because of a health issue that hadn’t been addressed? Asking questions help with the bigger picture and can often make hearing bad news less scary.
I usually go with the thought that there is a reason behind why bad news becomes bad news. We just have to understand what that reason might be.