Having the last word

How many of us know someone who no matter what we say, they always have to have the last word?

It doesn’t matter what they talk about, what the subject is, they need to say one more thing regardless of what we say. Some children tend to want to have the last word; but there are many adults who do the same thing. It’s almost something we’ve come to expect.

Having the last word is a habit, a bad one at that. I also think it’s an environmental and cultural problem, particularly cultures that have a patriarch at the head of the family, but when it comes to family, we usually know them well enough to know whom we’re up against.

When we choose to give the other person the last word we stop the conversation in its tracks. It also takes the heat out of what could turn into a heated argument. These people tend to have an opinion on almost everything and won’t stop until they’ve had the last word. There is, however, no intrinsic value to it. When we accept that is has no value we begin to see things in a more positive light.

We’re also less likely to feel annoyed by someone having the last word. When we choose not to have the last word we take away the stress associated with us having to have the last word, to get the other person to see that we’re right. It doesn’t put anyone who feels they need to have the last word in a good light.

We need to stop being self-righteous. I’m not sure why anyone has to prove to the other person what we believe to be true, just so long as we know, that’s all that matters.


27 Aug, 2011

6 thoughts on “Having the last word

    1. It’s important to be able to let someone else have the last word and let what they say go.

      You’re right Lisa, it’s not worth the stress.

  1. My father is usually like this, but I ignore him sometimes so I can see why he would want to have the last word.

    1. You know how to handle your father and that’s what counts Randy.

      I believe that what matters is what you think, not whether your father has the last word or not. The last word is unimportant.

  2. Sometimes letting someone else have the last word really is the right thing to do, especially if that person ‘is that way inclined’ and difficult to deal with. I’m sure we all know people like that!

    It takes a strong person to walk away but i agree completely that it isn’t necessary to prove to someone that they are wrong and you are right. That’s not what it is about.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *