Helicopter parents, parents who take parenting to the extreme. Parents who take too much responsibility for their children’s lives and experiences, without allowing their children to experience things for themselves.
Helicopter parents over-parent. They will constantly involve themselves in their children’s lives in a controlling way and as a consequence become over-protective towards their children. They are less inclined to let their children make or live their own lives and will parent so their children’s choices are limited.
I was born to parents who parented that way and although the terminology of helicopter parenting refers to parents of high school age, helicopter parenting happens at any age. As a consequence of my childhood, I made a conscious decision that if I ever had children they would go on to live their own lives and experience their own experiences.
The main problem with helicopter parenting is that children end up struggling with confidence and self-esteem issues because they’re not encouraged to think and do things for themselves. They will also feel less competent to deal with potential stressful issues when they’re adults.
All children will be affected by this form of parenting, there’s no getting away from it. For many years not only did I feel guilty for not achieving anything of great significance in my life, I also felt aggrieved that I didn’t get to live a life, let alone experience what I should have experienced that potentially other children will have got to experience.
My Cerebral Palsy had nothing to do with the way I was parented. My siblings were all parented in the same way. I was cosseted and although it’s not something I can change now, it tends to end with the loss of the parent.