We hold on to the things we know we desperately want to happen, even though we know deep down those things will never happen. As a child, I used to do the same thing.
An an adult in therapy, I would ask the same questions, but that was met with the same answers, there were no answers concrete enough, to change my thinking. The answers are now in my blog. We hold on in the hope that what we want to happen will one day happen, but the reality is that it may never happen.
We hold on to a dream that our lives will be different. We hold on to the things that don’t want to be held, instead of using the time, space and energy for the things that want us. I held on to the premise that my life would play out differently that I would have support. That I would begin to feel different.
I spent my life in denial, questioning the very things that would give me the answers I was looking for, instead of coming to accept the fact that the things I wanted to happen, would never happen. We’re so intent on seeing things the way we think or want them to be, we fail to look or come to terms with the way things are.
The truth is our lives would be simpler if we began to see our circumstances in the way they are, instead of the way we want those things to be and stop seeing those things through rose coloured spectacles, continually wishing our lives were different. We can live in hope that things will change for the better, but I see little point in spending an entire life waiting for the different to happen.
And that if we simply chose to base our understandings on the information being presented to us, we would learn sooner why things are the way they are and stop holding on to the things that we unconsciously know will never happen, unless those others want them to happen.