We often don’t stop to think that what we’re saying will not only get us into trouble, but will hurt someone else. As a child who was angry, I always got myself into trouble.
Although my family never worked out why I was so angry, my mum did ask me to think about what I was saying and if I couldn’t say anything nice, I shouldn’t say anything at all. Although I wasn’t always the only one she said it to, it really is a shame she didn’t go a step further to understand why I was so angry.
It would go on to take me many years to put her words into practice. I believe we must learn to engage our thoughts, then act on those thoughts, but head space matters. It’s the backbone to all communication.
Without a better head space, how we express ourselves will always leave room for question and as I see it, the problem is when others fail to ask why and assume you’re one way because it’s just you.