We don’t stop to think that what we say will not only get us into trouble, but will hurt someone else in the process.
I was forever doing it as a child and although my mum never took the time to work out why I was angry, she would tell me to think about my words and that if what I was going to say was going to offend I shouldn’t bother saying it at all.
It’s a shame she or my family didn’t think to understand why. It would go on to take me many years to change the way I expressed myself and put better words into practice. I think it important we engage with our thoughts first, then act.
It means that not only will the right process save us getting into trouble, but it will also save us from falling out with those people we go on to hurt.