We’re either embarrassed, or we know and understand our background and roots, but choose to deny all knowledge, or that was our existence.
I remember a conversation I had with a friend as a child, when we were talking about our parents and what they did for a living. Obviously embarrassed she denied everything about her father’s job and swiftly changed topic. I found it sad.
I think if more of us were more accepting of our roots, we’d be living better lives, communicating better and feeling better about ourselves. The reality is that whilst we don’t see our roots in a positive light, we don’t see ourselves in a positive light and how we see those early days will continue to be the driving force behind how we communicate and how we live our lives.
The bitterness we carry from our early lives, becomes part of us, forever entwined in our psyche. It is our lack of ability to accept our lives that continue to interfere with our behaviour and our decisions in more ways than we think. I was grateful for the roof over my head, regardless of how my upbringing panned out.
Of course, on some level, it will also interfere with our emotional and physical health. Personally, I have seen that happen.