“I think we can’t go around measuring our goodness by what we don’t do… by what we deny ourselves … what we resist and who we exclude.
I think we have to measure goodness by what we embrace … what we create and who we include.” – Chocolat
I absolutely love this quote from the film ‘Chocolat.’ It resonates completely with how I have lived and continue to live my life. Humility is something we can all have, but not all of us will. Humility isn’t something we just know how to do, we must work at it. I believe life is measured by it, how we behave, whom we include and how we choose to relate to other people.
Ever since I was a small child, I never felt the need to prove myself to anyone. I was never full of my own self-importance. I was respectful and grateful, it didn’t matter the circumstances. I was an unassuming child, who didn’t take anything or anyone for granted. Looking back, I wouldn’t change how I was, because I know those attributes have made me who I am today.
A person with humility, instead of being self-opinionated and pompous, will go about their life in an understated fashion. Although experiences help us mature and come to terms with many aspects of our lives, being humble allows us to deal with our issues, without a fuss and without other people knowing our business. We come to accept praise we’re given gracefully without others needing to know we have been praised.
Humility makes us more courteous, as we look to learn, listening to others and in doing so, perhaps placing those others before ourselves. We would never neglect ourselves, but we’re also happy to think about other people who may need our help. Humility means that everything we do comes from a gentle, more considerate and conciliatory place.
We live life at a much slower pace and choose a life that’s more purposeful. Even with differences in the world, a person with humility will unconsciously choose not to see any differences, or will embrace those differences instead of making a difference, or walking away.
Unfortunately, even if we start off being humble, in a society that encourages us to be less individual and more inclusive it can be hard to stay humble, but we must. Humility will always concur with the universe and is a good way to live.