As a child, I was always being told what to do. What I was given wasn’t as much a guide, as a demand.
We may routinely sabotage ourselves by ignoring good advice when it’s given to us. According, to a study from Pennsylvania University, the things we think about just before we receive advice, usually decides whether we choose to listen. Yes, mood is responsible for whether we choose to accept another person’s advice.
Something as simple as reflecting on our core values can change the way our brain responds to the kind of messages we encounter every day and whether we choose to listen to advice. Over time that impact can be huge.
From my own understanding, unless someone else has the same thinking as us, we’re less likely to go with that person’s advice. We’re also more likely to feel defensive when another person’s suggestion points out our weaknesses. Although we’re not always consciously aware that is what we’re doing, it is usually how it works.
I tend to go with whether I think the advice I’m being given serves my purpose. I also think it depends on how the advice is given. If the person giving the advice isn’t dictatorial and is coming from a place of care, then I’m quite happy to listen to their advice.
We all like to feel we’re in control, but on some level we may need to accept that we can’t know everything and therefore won’t always be in control. We can’t always be an expert in all things. It would be good for us to take other people’s advice, if it helps.
It’s not to say we must take all advice that’s given to us. We can discount the advice we feel isn’t for us and accept the advice that helps us. Another person’s perspective is always helpful. We can learn a lot from other people’s opinions.
For those who work from their ego, they listen only to themselves and when the ego is taken out of the equation, those people are more likely to listen to what others say. The more powerful we think we are, the more likely we are to discount and ignore good advice that is given to us.
The irony is that we become more powerful when we allow others to help us. The power we have should never be based on ego, but should always be based on us improving ourselves.