It’s easy to become angry around negative experiences, but it’s also important we deal with those experiences so that anger isn’t able to control or consume us. Talking about how we feel can make a difference between acceptance and non-acceptance of our issues and illness.
When it comes to people with a terminal illness, it’s easy to see why those people might feel angry, but perhaps their anger isn’t just about their terminal illness? Anger can be an underlying trait that makes up who we are, because we have issues that are buried deep in our past.
The thought of being terminally ill can bring about a negative and angry response, but it can also bring about positive feelings, particularly in the early stages of their illness. When my mum was diagnosed with lung cancer there was a slight determination for her to remain upbeat. She had a sense of commitment to fight and remain positive.
Although it’s the patient that initially has to deal with his or her illness, their family also need to be able to cope and work through it. When a loved one is angry all the time, it makes it hard for their family to cope. Nobody wants to be around angry people. Unfortunately, anger stops a person from finding a level of calm and acceptance.
Achieving that can make a difference to both our emotional and physical recovery. When it comes to any terminal illness, it’s a lot more difficult to bring our thoughts together positively, but by standing back, we can begin to assess our illness more fully and that allows us to take more positive steps, moving forward.
If you have someone you can confide in, or you feel comfortable talking to, that will always help.