Being angry is common around negative experiences. It is therefore, important that anger is dealt with, particularly as anger has a way of controlling us if we don’t control it.
From what I have seen when someone is diagnosed with a terminal illness and they’re angry, it’s usually because anger is the underlying trait that makes up their character, in one way or another. Being terminally ill tends to tip us over the edge. I don’t believe it’s something that occurs, just because we’re dealing with a terminal illness.
Some of us find it difficult to talk about how we feel and will hide our emotions, particularly if those emotions are associated with sadness, anger or fear. Being terminally ill, automatically brings about both of those emotions. I have never been around people with a terminal illness who have been willing to talk about their illness. I believe, however that talking about how we feel, can make a difference between acceptance and non-acceptance of our illness, particularly if our illness turns out to be terminal.
The thought of being terminally ill can bring about negative and angry feelings, but can also bring about positive feelings too. What usually follows is a person’s determination to remain upbeat about their illness. They have a sense of commitment to fight and remain positive in the initial stages of their illness. I have seen that too.
Although initially it’s the patient that has to deal with their illness, their family also needs to work through it. When our loved ones fail to stay calm and are angry all the time, it makes it hard anyone to cope. No one wants to be around angry people.
Unfortunately, anger will always stop a person from finding a level of calm and acceptance. In some cases, but not all, it can make a difference to their emotional and physical recovery.