I remember being brought to task over my behaviour if it was ever deemed inappropriate. As soon as we’re old enough to talk, we’re taught how we should behave.
We have rules in school, we have rules in the work place, in society and we have the mandatory social etiquette rule, which we are taught by our parents from an early age. Even if we’re taught about social etiquette, there will always be those who adjust their behaviour to suit themselves.
Children will usually conform if what’s being taught is reinforced and makes sense to them. Children who aren’t taught are less likely to conform and will live by their own set of rules as the adult.
What is deemed inappropriate behaviour?
Sarcasm is my biggest bug bear and when used as a form of communication is totally inappropriate, in some cases it may even be abusive. An inappropriate sense of humour which doesn’t fit into certain circumstances is another. Hurting someone intentionally with words is also inappropriate.
It’s not just children who are guilty. Adults do it too and will often get away with it, if the people they’re with fail to pick them up on it. Because we tend to emulate what we see and hear, it’s easy to pick up sarcasm traits around those using this type of behaviour.
But once we change our perspective, our behaviour will change. We need to consciously become aware of how and what we say and whether what we say will have an impact, or be deemed inappropriate by someone else.
I believe the majority are aware, but the minority get it wrong, particularly in social circles. If we fail to engage our thoughts before we speak, we may always end up saying something inappropriate, resulting in what can be classed as inappropriate or abusive behaviour.