Indecisive tendencies

I am sure we’ve all been indecisive at some point in our lives, but what happens if we’re indecisive all the time? I know one or two people who struggle with decision bigger, but not being able to make any decisions can infringe on other parts of our lives. It’s a self confidence thing.

We must have faith in our own ability. Faith to follow our own intuition around decisions, rather than be led by other people’s decisions; faith to believe that the decisions we make are usually the choice and the road we’re supposed to take. There can never be a wrong choice, because as soon as we decide on our choice, it becomes the right choice for us.

So how do we go about becoming decisive? I would say we need to generate more self-confidence. We need to believe in our own abilities instead of doubting ourselves all the time. We also need to follow our instincts and blow caution to the wind and just go for a decision, instead of pondering over a decision, then failing to follow it through.

I believe it’s also important to ignore what others think of your decisions; your decisions are for you to make no one else. Just because we make a decision that doesn’t accord with another person’s decision, doesn’t mean our decision is wrong.

It could be that our decision is wrong for someone else, but is right for us. It’s our life; we must make and stand by our own decisions.


4 Feb, 2012

4 thoughts on “Indecisive tendencies

  1. I’m afraid to make decisions sometimes due to making the wrong ones, but looking back all the decisions I’ve made were right for me at the time. Of course the ones I made as a teenager were because I rebelled.

    I also think about how my decisions are going to affect my family, like the adoption, That was a huge decision that I had to consult my husband about first.

    If it involves others I think we should consult with them first.

    1. I agree that if decisions affect someone else as well, then yes of course they need to be consulted with, but individually we need to be able to make our own decisions.

      Although it sounds easy to do, for some of us it’s the most difficult thing to do. Thanks for posting Lisa.

  2. I used to be great at making decisions, right ones and wrong ones. I never used to give anything a seconds thought, but looking back that was probably just youthful exuberance and inexperience and now I am somewhat more circumspect.

    Today’s decisions are much more important and deserve due consideration but I am also aware of the dangers of this straying into indecision too.

    1. This is probably how many of us think, but I am confident the decisions we eventually decide on are usually right for us.

      I think given some of the decisions we have to make in today’s society, it’s easy to see why some of those decisions may stray into in-decisions too. We just have to follow our convictions and make them regardless!

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