We tend to initiate certain changes for ourselves, which we’re okay with, but often when change is imposed on us through circumstances and other people, we’re not so okay.
Certain changes like moving to a new house, going back to school or moving jobs are exciting changes, but whilst we’re initiating those changes, we may still feel apprehension and concern over whether those changes will come out right. We tend to reconcile our thoughts, so that they fit in with our wants and needs.
What about change that is imposed on us by circumstances, are those experiences likely to feel different? It would be easy to feel different about them. In some ways, change that we’re not prepared for can make us feel fearful, even frightened. In circumstances where we must deal with unexpected change, we may find ourselves resisting change altogether.
It’s normal and comes with the territory. We’re hesitant because we’re not sure and will resist anything we’re not sure about. It took me a long time to get my ahead around a non-disability, but knew that without changing my perceptions and making myself strong, I would never work through the inevitability of change around those perceptions.
Although finding out what I had been struggling with for all those years was quite daunting, working through that change, changed my life forever. Although hard, I bit the bullet as they say and made a conscious decision that it needed to happen and that I needed to know.
Generally, change becomes inevitable. Nothing ever stays the same. That being the case, we should therefore learn to embrace change more, whether we initiate it or not.