We tend to initiate certain changes for ourselves, which we’re okay with, but often when change is imposed on us through circumstances and other people, we’re not so okay.
Certain changes like moving house, going back to school or moving jobs are exciting changes, but whilst we’re initiating those changes, we may still feel apprehension and concern over whether those changes will come out right. We tend to reconcile our thoughts, so that they fit in with our wants and needs.
What about change that is imposed on us by circumstances? Are those experiences likely to feel different? It’s easy to feel different about them. In some ways, change that we’re not prepared for can make us feel fearful, even frightened. In circumstances where we must deal with unexpected change, we may find ourselves resisting change altogether.
At some point in life we continue to resist change. It’s normal and comes with the territory. We’re hesitant because we’re not sure and will resist anything we’re not sure about. I knew I was sure and ready to find out what and why I struggled emotionally and physically as a child. That’s been my biggest ever change.
Although finding out what I had been struggling with for all those years would seem quite daunting and would change my life forever, I made a conscious decision that it needed to happen and that I needed to know.
Generally, change becomes inevitable. Nothing ever stays the same. That being the case, perhaps we should therefore learn to embrace change more, whether we initiate it or not.