We’ve all gone through the process of growing up, with some of us enjoying the experience more than others.
It is virtually impossible to determine how each child will develop in reality, because so many factors need to be taken into consideration. We need to look at the obvious influences that shape a child’s world, including genetics; parenting; extended family; schools and relationships. They all have an impact.
I know from my own upbringing, how it all works. As the adult, I actively chose to live a different way, to how I was brought up. In my formative years, although my character was largely determined to some extent by the main influences in my life that of my parents and genetics, I continue to choose to shape my own influences through my spiritual beliefs, so that my life fits perfectly for me and I fit perfectly into my life.
I believe that the strongest influences will have the biggest impact on us, but that’s where the similarities end. I also believe that consciously being aware of the many influences, will allow us to determine whether those influences are good for us, or whether those influences need to change. It is the influences that are responsible for how we get to live our lives.
Unfortunately, many of us in our lifetime will stick with the same influences, either because we feel guilty, or we’re afraid of making any new changes. The hard part is making sure that any changes we go on to make, are also changed by the people we choose to continue to keep in our lives, otherwise it defeats the object of change.
There will always be certain areas of our lives that we can’t change, but having children of our own and helping them understand, who their good influences are, will help them address and make any new changes for themselves.