As a race, we’re generally sensitive to thinking others are talking about us or having a go at us when they’re talking to us about something.
When we enter a room and someone is talking, we automatically think they’re talking about us; or if someone says something we take offence at what they say, instead of understanding why they felt the need to say that something in the first place. Generally, we often say something because we feel the need, not because we’re trying to pick holes in someone’s character.
These behaviour patterns usually stem from learned behaviour, because we either feel threatened or totally insecure about ourselves. If we worked through each scenario separately, I am sure we wouldn’t think each scenario was about us; nor would we go on the defensive every time something was said.
We’re unique, our thought processes will never match those of others, therefore our interpretation will never match those of others either. If we took more time to understand that concept we probably wouldn’t take hum-bridge to these kinds of comments.
Because I had very little confidence as a child I would automatically assume that if my family were talking together, they were talking about me. I know that if I behaved inappropriately as a child this scenario applied to me. When I was annoyed with the world this applied to me.
Unless we change things, we will always take hum-bridge at something that’s said, or what we thought was said.