As a small child, I had the hallmarking of insular behaviour. I shied away from people and the world in general and didn’t want to be noticed.
It could be that we’re that way anyway, or our upbringing or environment are very much part of why we choose to be insular. If we are not supported or encouraged, we may follow insular patterns. I also believe that some of the way we behave is in our genes.
Families are mostly well intentioned, but with some encouragement, some of those insular character traits can be changed. Had my disability been addressed and I had have been encouraged, my confidence will have changed and so too would my behaviour.
If children aren’t handled correctly, they will fail to understand how to form relationships later on. It’s important for parents to ask their children questions that matter, because it is those questions that will bring about new understandings and a better relationship with their children.
People are insular for a reason. That’s no excuse for others to leave us there. So, who are the ones to suffer? There are no clear winners. We will all struggle with the presenting behaviour.