As a small child, I had all the hallmarking of insular behaviour. I shied away from people and the world in general. I hated being noticed. I believe in my case my upbringing had a lot to do with it.
It could be that we’re that way, but us not being supported or encouraged, are other reasons why we may follow insular patterns. I also believe that some of the way we behave is in our genes.
Families are mostly well intentioned, but sadly that’s not always how it works. I know that had my disability been addressed and I had been encouraged, my behaviour would have changed.
Of course, being insular will also have a marked effect on our relationships. If children aren’t parented correctly, they will fail to understand how to form relationships later on. People are insular for a reason.
That’s no excuse for others to leave us there.