It’s not always obvious to us that the people in our lives may be intimidating and controlling.
For those of us who deal with intimidation, it can be a nightmare because we unwittingly allow others to intimidate us without us realising. Irrational thinking is sometimes the reason we allow others to intimidate us. We must find ways to respond differently.
Being intimidated, means we allow the other person to interfere with our emotions, how we think and feel about ourselves. Through intimidation, we feel belittled, self-conscious and inadequate. Although control is linked to intimidation, they must be understood and recognised as two separate problems.
When we are intimidated, we open ourselves up to being controlled. Someone whose emotions have been interfered with, who already has weakened defences, will unwittingly allow outside influences in. Sadly, we don’t always make those conscious connections.
But we need to continue to show others that we will not be intimidated and that we are in control. We need to develop new ways of dealing with people who intimidate us so that we become more assertive. We must take back control from those who make decisions for us and stop the intimidation.