Introversion for mental health

I have seen how life can be snatched from us in the blink of an eye. Had it not been for the use of introversion, I too would have succumbed to illness many years ago.

I have also seen first-hand what happens when we don’t confront our issues. What is evident to others, isn’t always evident to us, but the emotional and physical cost is almost too great to ignore.

When it comes to childhood, hereditary and environmental factors come into play and what weren’t issues can quite easily become issues. I had to make myself strong. I was also determined not to make myself ill.

My blogs are all written from a place of introversion or introspection. I spent my formative years working from the same place, which is why I am able to detail and document each experience accurately, so that my views stay balanced and in check with how I know those experiences to be.

We must be happy to take control and responsibility for the things we are responsible for, but we shouldn’t take responsibility for the guilt we may be made to feel when it isn’t our guilt to carry.

26 Jul, 2018

6 thoughts on “Introversion for mental health

  1. Dealing with guilty feelings seems to be my biggest dilemma right now and something I can’t seem to overcome.

    It just dawned on me this morning that I’m still trapped in that cycle of trying to please my mom, which makes a lot of sense when I look back on it.

    I had to withdraw into myself as a child, just to survive dealing with her and the nightmare that was our childhood.

    The problem has been that there’s a part of me that just wants to stay in hiding and not deal with my current situation, but that also means staying trapped in a place where I really don’t want to be.

    I will have to step way out of my comfort zone to escape, but I have to try to remember that I’m not responsible for making my girlfriend or anyone else happy.

    1. Thanks Randy. Honestly, now that you know that’s what you’re doing, you can work to change, to get past those feelings and needing to please your mum.

      Had you struggled to understand your behaviour, it would have been much harder of course, but that’s clearly not the case here and that’s great.

      Withdrawing into yourself as a child is part of that scenario I talk about in my blog. Now you just have to let go of the guilt that keeps you stuck and in the same cycle.

      I agree with you when you say, ‘I’m not responsible for making my girlfriend or anyone else happy.’ No you’re not, that is for them to do, but you are responsible for finding a way to be happy for yourself.

  2. I am not renowned for my introversion and introspection skills, but I can see how taking the time to look inwards can help shape the people we become.

    How we respond to things and make choices are based on letting out what’s on the inside.

    1. Thank you. Yes, I agree. But we must turn our experiences into feelings around wellbeing, so that emotionally we come from a place of integrity, compassion, patience, tolerance and understanding, because everything else is abuse.

      Any experiences that include trauma and abuse, need to be understood, and dealt with positively, through introversion or introspection.

  3. Something went quiet in me when you said, ‘I had to make myself strong.’ You heard your strength breathing inside of you, I’m sure.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, I think there is an element of truth in your comment when you say, ‘you heard your strength breathing inside of you.’

      I was aware of a higher purpose, it wasn’t as clear, or as honed as it is now, but as a child, I was aware of something unconsciously connecting me, to a ‘higher thing.’ Perhaps that is what it was.

      I would often find myself chanting so that I could take away those bad thoughts. I would often exhale those bad thoughts out, not always understanding that I was paving the way for something bigger than me, to take control.

      Defined as ‘spiritual breathing’ I believe that is what I was doing. I still do it today to get rid of any bad thoughts. You’ve brought me more clarity.

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