I have written blogs here on site about denial, so there’s probably not much more now to say about it, but one last thought came to mind in how isolating living in denial can be.
It’s fine to a point, but once we’re in denial over health issues we’re literally on our own, I’ve seen it happen. Living in denial can also split families, when certain family members want to know what’s going on and other family members don’t. It literally makes communication and helping one another very difficult.
As family begin to pull in different directions, it’s never easy knowing what’s going on. It’s also hard to watch someone go down hill before your very eyes, and not be able to help. I take the view that whatever we deal with, as long as we understand and agree, we will always cope better.
Those who consciously choose not to know what’s wrong with another family member, will always make it difficult for other family members who want to know what’s going on. Ideally all family members need to be working off the same page.
Sometimes we don’t want to know, sometimes we’re in denial because we can’t face up to things.