I am not sure why ‘it is what it is’ was on my mind today, but perhaps the situation with my parents gone, has brought this thought into my mind.
I cannot change my own circumstances. It’s fine if you’re happy with the situation or outcome you are left with, but if it’s something that you know we’ll never be able to change, it may make it that much more difficult to come to terms with, particularly if you’re dealing with a loss.
If we know we cannot change a situation, we have to be able to at least manage that situation and that’s not easy either.
What does it is what it is mean?
It usually means we’re resigned to any given situation. It refers to a situation or issue, something we cannot change. It doesn’t mean that the situation we’re dealing with is ideal, but it is the situation that exists in our life at that time. For some it may be seen as negative, for others it may just be a way of us being able to observe our own issue or situation.
There are some things in our lives that we cannot change. We cannot change losing a relative, but we can change how we perceive our loss, so we deal with our loss positively. We also can’t change family. To harbour the point and wish we had or could change something we can’t is pointless and in the longer term is a waste of time.
It is what it is means that for that specific time the situation is what it is, but it’s not always something that is set in stone that we can’t change it. As with all things, the things we know we can change we should and the things we cannot change we need to be okay with.
It is what it is also means we must learn to live with what we have, in the present moment until we’re able to move on.